As a business and workplace author and speaker, I’m always getting asked about how to cope with getting fired, or how to fire a wayward employee. But no one ever talks about the best way to cut ties with an individual you’re working with as a client or a partner.
In my native world of public relations, the idea of firing a client who is paying you is virtually unheard of. You simply put up with the abuse no matter how severe. Talk to any business relationship expert, however, and you will surely hear that this is not a good situation for anyone.
Give Them a Chance, Then Show Them the Door: Provided you have had a heart-to-heart conversation with the problematic person and their negative or counterproductive behavior has not improved, it may be time to part ways. Otherwise, the financial compensation will quickly be overshadowed by a vicious cycle of toxic conversations and hurtful actions.
Ask to Meet Face to Face: So how do you extricate yourself in a professional manner? Tough as it may be to stomach, the most mature approach is to meet in person. A public location is probably safest because having other people present will likely prevent an unseemly outburst.
Prepare for the Conversation: Jotting down notes in advance can help you come across kind, assertive, and concise. Write down your ideas for tying up loose ends so that you don’t forget them in the stress of the moment. If the client/partner tries to persuade you to stay, hold your ground, but if you want to save face you can leave the door open for a business relationship in the future.
Be Friendly But Firm: The more incendiary the relationship, the easier this conversation may be to have. It will likely be more difficult if you and the client are on friendly terms, but for whatever reason the engagement isn’t working. If this is the case, assure him or her that you have enjoyed the partnership but circumstances dictate that you need to move on.
This post was originally published on Intuit’s Quickbase blog.
Ridding these toxic people can be liberating. It's not worth depreciating self-worth for a few extra dollars in the long run (given the problem they create causing you to waste your valuable time on). I will feature this article to pair mentioning my essay (http://blog.sysil.com/2010/10/20/dealing-with-toxic-friends-and-relationships/) again.
Posted by: Stanley Lee | November 23, 2010 at 03:51 AM
Just noticed I posted this comment in the wrong post - oops!
I am curious what you would do if this were a 50/50 partnership situation and the company was clearly suffering at the expense of two partners who won't deal with each other anymore?
Posted by: Natalie | November 28, 2010 at 09:08 PM
Thank you for this post..
John..
Posted by: John Papers | December 14, 2010 at 08:48 AM
@Natalie: Oh, that makes more sense now! Well, I think my answer is basically the same. :)
@Stanley: Great piece, thank you for sharing!
@John: You're welcome, glad you liked it.
Posted by: Alexandra Levit | December 21, 2010 at 12:37 AM